It’s easy to get stuck seeking perfection.
“It’s not quite right. I just need to (fill in the blank) before I’m ready.”
Nothing significant or remarkable gets accomplished when you think like that.
What’s behind perfection might surprise you.
In a recent Oprah interview, the author of “Daring Greatly”, Brene Brown, says our quest for perfection is really our effort to minimize shame and judgement. Or as Oprah puts it, “Perfectionists are ultimately afraid that the world is gonna see them for who they really are and they won’t measure up.”
It took a lot of years of perfectionistic tendencies for me to see that they’re right!
If you keep yourself busy perfecting, you don’t have to deliver. And if you don’t deliver, nobody can judge the quality of your work. And if nobody’s judging your work, you don’t risk shame.
The problem with this scenario is that you don’t get anything done. You don’t share your brilliance with the world. And that’s a ridiculous waste of talent.
Quit perfecting. Stop hiding. Risk judgement.
Everyone else is too busy perfecting their own stuff to judge you, anyway.
Dare to deliver!
You can’t be all things to all people.
“But I can help everybody.”
That’s the refrain I’ve heard from countless entrepreneurs over the years.
Perhaps you can, so let’s go with that belief for a moment.
Sure. You can help the people who can’t afford you. You can help the people who create hassles for you. You can help the people who suck the joy out of your day. You can help the people who don’t take responsibility for their role in their outcome.
But are they really the people you want to serve? How long can you work with people who don’t pay you? How will I know who to refer to you if you help everyone?
When you try to be all things to all people, you blend in. You’re forgettable. You’re forgotten.
But when you put a stake in the ground and are specific about who you serve and what you do for them, THAT is memorable. THAT is what drives referrals. THAT is what gets you clients who you love serving.
Dare to take a stand!
You do not need permission.
Even though we run our own business, there are times we act as if we’re still in third grade.
…waiting for the school bell to ring so we can run outside to the playground.
…waiting to be called on while we raise an invisible hand to prove we know the answer.
… looking to others for approval and validation that what we’re doing is okay.
You’re an adult now, so what if you simply did it?
What if you didn’t care what people think?
So what if you trip and fall?
Because what if you soar?
Give yourself permission to never ask for permission again. Ever.
Dare to do!
The truth is…anything is possible.
You want to host a talk show?
You want to fly a helicopter?
You want to take your family on an African safari?
Yes, anything is possible.
Yet we get caught in the daily drudgery. How can we possibly do that when we’ve got a business to run? Bills to pay? Mouths to feed?
And to add insult to injury, we look at the amazing things other people are doing and don’t think we can measure up. We think they’ve got something special that we don’t.
You want something? I’ll tell you how you do it…
You create it.
You shape your world one choice at a time. One decision at a time. One step at a time.
Small steps allow you to make leaps and bounds toward accomplishing the possibilities you imagine.
If you have a goal to achieve, problem to solve or adventure to experience, let me help you. Register now for Declare Your Dare :: 21 MicroMovements to Make Shift Happen. I’ll give you 21 days of small steps you can take to make the possibility a reality. It’s free and it starts on Monday, April 26 2013.
I know you have it in you. (Even if you don’t believe it for yourself.)
Dare to create your world and live out your possibilities!